Do you remember those times when you were a teenager and had not even been in love but had dreams of how it would be?
Remember when you listened to a love song and already saw yourself reminiscing all this kind of lovely words?
Remember when you listened to a heartbreak song and went emotionally sad even when you had not experienced it?
Remember also falling in love with the lead in a movie and dreamt all day about him/her?
What about the time this actually happened?
How about when you finally fell in love, all the goodies that came, remember? The feeling, the smiling for no reason, the pure expression of happiness and the plenty sleep?
Love was good then, wasn’t it?
How about when you crushed on your school mate?
How about when all these went into the bloopers? Oh No!
The emotional turmoil? The crying? The cursing?
Love didn’t seem all that good right?
How did you handle it? Did you run into another rebound?
When did you finally reach the breaking point?
When did you even realized, you were not all that special and that, bad things can also happen to you and that your beauty alone cannot guarantee a romantic happily ever after?
And that, all your money, class and influence had no effect on who you attract as a partner in love?
How on earth did that boy/girl break your beautiful heart? Why did he/she stop calling you all of a sudden?
As we grow, things start to add up and we begin to understand why certain things happen. Now let’s break it down. Whiles some people meet their soul mates early on in life, most people will go through different types of relationships before they finally settle down.
1. The first is the naive relationships we fall into. This happens early on in our lives.
2. The second one is the one that teaches us hard lessons and makes us tough.
3. The third is the final one.
With age comes wisdom, experience and the ability to master the art of handling such circumstances.
We finally reach the point where we know, ok, we aren’t all that but also human.
Many will learn from it, move on to very successful love lives.
Others will also realize, it wasn’t love after all.
Many regret dating some people and still cannot believe there was a time they dated such people.
There is this story of a rich woman returning to her hometown to find her teenage boyfriend who broke her heart resulting in her parents sending her off to live with her sister in the city. When she returned, he had lost all his front teeth and she could not believe this was the guy who almost sent her to her grave.
She immediately paid for his teeth implantation and the guy misread her kind gesture as she still wanted him back.
In this case, the lady felt humiliated for anyone to even link her to him and decided to uplift his image. She for the life of her did not believe she fell for this one.
Does this story remind you of your own story? How does this make you feel when you remember certain people you dated in the past especially when you were young?
1. Our first experience of what love is happens early on in our lives, such as during our teen years. As we grow up, we falsely convince ourselves that this was not love. This love is usually misconstrued. I don’t think we can say that was not love because you went through every hallmark of what love does to us. It may not have been love for the other person but to you, it was and you should be glad and happy for those good times.
During that time, we went through what we knew love to be. We got the opportunity to experience the laughter, the joy, the pains and happiness that came with being in love.
When we finally came out of our heartbreak phase and moved on, we vowed we have learnt our lessons and will never go through this again. We will never be fooled by such a man or woman, yet we suffered another heartbreak. How did that happen?
2. This is where the second type of love happens. We fall for someone who convinces us they are the real deal but end up disappointing us.
Because even when we feel we are old and experienced in love, we still fell for the lies and ended up with betrayal and pain. This love is the one that will surely open our eyes and give us the sense we need to move on.
At this point, we have been rejected by that little boy/girl who had nothing. We become victims again and were rejected and disappointed by the man/woman who promised us everything we need in this world. Finally, we are now confident to say, we have mastered the art of love. We promise ourselves that, we will certainly be careful and scrutinize anyone who comes seeking our love.
We now know what we want, how our expectation of love should be and know what we want about love. We have full expectation and move with our brains before our hearts. At this point, we know love alone is not enough. Going into another relationship means, we must factor our future, our goals, aspirations, jobs, children and residency.
After all these life experiences, we are sitting our corner, minding our business and then all of a sudden, and this is where the final love shows up. This kind of love sneaks in on us from where we least expect it.
3. With this type of love, we start to see someone we had considered a friend, a colleague or acquaintance in a different light and we begin to fall in love with them. Our line of conversation shifts from the regular talks to family matters, they start to give us reasons why they are meant to be with us and just like a miracle, everything starts to make sense.
We remember everything such people have done for us. How they were our confidants, support system, the great conversations, the wonderful times together and the many things we share in common with them.
When we make the decision to go with these people, we go in full and end up getting married to them to the surprise of everyone around us. such individuals become our lifelong partners.
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Are you reaching your aaaha moments now? Does this make sense to you now? Do you now understand why some people move swiftly and get married to our surprise? How about you or your spouse? Has this happened to any of you?
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