This Valentine’s Day, cast your mind back to why you are with your spouse and rebuild your relationship for a healthy and a happy life.
We fall in love, move in together, get married, have kids and then we pull the plugs on our relationship. We get so busy in trying to survive or trying so hard to reach a certain goal that, we forget to live.
We forget to enjoy the journey to our goal and constantly find ourselves chasing an unending dream.
What we forget is that, as humans, we never get there. Our constant quest for some things never stops.
The point I am trying to make is that, it’s important to have a dream but we should enjoy every moment of that journey. It is therefore incumbent on us to make the effort to enjoy every success we gain as we journey through life. This will enable us enjoy our life to the fullest.
So most of us pray for a life partner and when we finally get it and settle down, then we get overwhelmed with the next chapter that, we forget about ourselves.
There are couples who used to have a regular get aways, date nights and sit down for breakfast and dinners but this stops right after they return from their own marriage reception or honeymoon. It even gets worse when they start having kids right after marriage.
The quest to survive, take care of our families and build careers get us so busy that, we do not even look at our spouses anymore, we forget to enjoy each other’s company. It is even worse when the couple have jobs and different
schedules.
Most couples communicate via text as one comes home to find the other asleep and the cycle continues all in the name of money.
It gets to a point where the only conversation couples have is concerning their children. They no longer talk about anything of interest to the both of them as lovers.
That is why we should not lose sight of the fact that, though the end goal is important the journey is equally important. We should make conscious efforts to take breaks to celebrate our little achievements. Spend quality time with the person we fell in love with. It is beneficial to our health when we take the time we need to laugh and actually live.
If you have taken your spouse for granted, then here is your opportunity to make amends. That is why, we should be grateful for days like valentine’s day. Such days sets as reminders that, we need to have time to celebrate our loved ones.
Here Are Some of The Little But Great Ideas We Can do to Rekindle our love and Live A Happy Life.
Take few hours to be alone and reminisce your good times. Reflect on why you chose each other and take time to remind yourself of your achievements as a couple.
Write a love letter. Send your spouse a poem or a song they love to listen to, or you both used to listen to.
Buy him or her a simple but something that they need and will use. Remember it is the thought that counts. Does your spouse need a coffee mug for the office?
Tell him/her you love them. Appreciate them for the day and remind them of how grateful you are for them.
Make the change he/she has asked you to make for yourself, for them or for both of you. How does shedding off some few pounds sounds to you or your spouse? How about cutting down on that late nights? How will this mean to your spouse?
Cook them their favorite meal and set a simple candlelight dinner. When you make such an effort, the most tired or the busiest person usually cools off and sits to enjoy whatever you have made. This will set the tone for a nice
conversation.
Serve them breakfast and plan to spend quality time with them.
You can always gift flowers to your girl. It never gets old.
If you cannot think of any gift, money is king and has always been a great gift. Give them money but be present when you deliver it.
Happy Valentine’s day lovers!